Everyday I used to wake up dreading my 9a to 5p job. Was it awful? Not really, I could schedule time off, come in late, and ignore everything until I got my average two to three cups of coffee in. For only having two years of general school in college, my 9a to 5p was nicer than most. Nicer than most sure but what I wanted ? Not at all!
I’d work all day and feel too physically and emotionally exhausted to enthusiastically create a life I truly wanted to live each day. So for five years I spent my days living for the weekend. Not until I began a part time bartending job did it all really smack me in the face. And yes I know what you’re thinking “oh she’s one of those girls” but to be honest I didn’t ever bartend before that job. Sure I could talk and mix together some liquor but did I love it? No. Sometimes though I truly believe God places you in certain situations for a reason. One night my customer blatantly asked me “why this? Why are you at this bad right now listening to drunks tell you about their lives?” I immediately begin to rack my brain for a quick witty response (like I’m so good at) and yet nothing. He repeated himself with a heightened sense of accomplishment. I laughed it off hoping he’d let it go. Of course be didn’t and I realized he had a great point. I didn’t know why I was there.
It’s crazy to think at twenty six years old I could’ve been anywhere. I could’ve finished college and be a successful businesswoman by now. I could’ve traveled the world, created something amazing, yet here I was struggling from day to day to pay bills. In the moments I relayed I needed to change this asap! I needed to re evaluate my life and achieve things. So I began working less hours, told the bar I’d only work one night a month. I continued my regular full time day shift job but my part time job was now creating my own success. A lot of things have changed for me since then. Here’s a list of four things I now make time to do everyday:
1. Make time to brainstorm
Whether it’s brainstorming about potential business ideas or how your gonna make time for yourself this week. Brainstorm! It’s healthy and rewarding. You create a sense of self when you choose to think about things you can do to make your own life happier. And trust me I believe everyone benefits from moms happiness! Haha. Always remember that while our families are our world, we can make their life better by being happy with ourselves first. Maybe part of your brain storming today is figuring out when you can get your hair done. So be it, take care of you so you can take care of them and create a rewarding future for you and your family.
While bills are a huge part of being a adult, don’t let it consume you. Bills will always be there. The sooner you understand that the less you’ll work at a crappy unfulfilling job and the happier you’ll be. Don’t get me wrong, a job is more than likely always going to be just that, a job. For me however, bartending was not rewarding in anyway besides paying my bills. I was miserable punching in every evening at 6pm knowing I could spend time with no one but the people who came in to the bar. How unfulfilling that was for me. I wanted to create more for myself and see my family more! Who doesn’t want that?! So I stopped worrying about bills as much and began spending my time doing things I was passionate about. My whole world changed. I became a happier more fulfilled woman. Which did nothing but motivate me even more to do something I loved to do!
3. Write down goals you have for the day
Again, this doesn’t have to be a crazy unacchievable list or even in depth but what do you want to achieve today? Try getting three out of the five things done on your list each day. Not only will you feel accomplished but you’ll be achieving something for yourself every day. Create a life you love waking up to everyday. For me it usually has something to do with spending a little less, not stopping for the breakfast burrito and being more feeling conscious. Understanding how I can make others feel wonderful.
4. Write down three things that made you smile today
Who made you smile a little brighter today? Did you get a promotion at work? Did someone bring you lunch? Or did you set up a cooking class with your husband. Whatever it is, no matter how big or small, write down what made you feel a little brighter today. Three things each day and then go back and review them at the end of the week. You’ll smile looking back on the week too. This is something that is a must in my life. Sometimes I tend to be very forgetful of all the wonderful things that are happening in my life and around me. It helps tremendously to look back on the day and realize it was pretty nice after all. My fiancé loves this idea, because if I’m ever forgetful of what he’s done for me, he will flip back thru my planner and remind me when he bought me flowers. Each and everytime. Ha. I try to never be grumpy but we all know we get in moods and this exercise each day is a wonderful way to come out of those blah moods we tend to find ourselves in at times.
So ladies and gentlemen begin creating your own empire with these simple everyday steps. I promise your days and weeks will feel so much more fulfilling. You owe it to yourself to work on accomplishing great things. You can create your own empire of success and happiness! Feel free to comment and message me! I enjoy hearing your feedback